What if you were no longer able to drive? Would you feel like life as you know it is over, or can you think of a few transportation alternatives in your area?
Well guess what; we live in an innovative world chock-full of resources. No matter where you live, not driving doesn’t need to hinder your day-to-day life. You’ve got options. Lots of them. Let us put a few myths to rest when it comes to no longer driving.
Myth #1) My community doesn’t have a public transportation system so I don’t have any alternatives if I give up driving.
Just because you don’t have a bus, subway, or ample taxis doesn’t mean you don’t have alternative options for transportation. There are multitudes of websites and agencies you can turn to for options and lists of even more resources. To get you started, ABC News put together this list of national and state resources that help provide car services for older adults.
Here in Waukesha County, for example, our local Aging and Disability Resource Center is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to identifying a solution for transportation needs. They have a dedicated transportation department and offer a Ride Line program for older adults who are no longer driving or drive on a limited basis. After application to the program is completed, participants enjoy discounted rates to get where they need to be via safe, secure vehicles and drivers.
Money. It’s a sensitive topic. You don’t discuss paychecks at work, you don’t talk about your mortgage with friends, and you certainly don’t ask your parents what’s in their savings account. They likely grew up in a family where finances weren’t openly discussed. Their pride, privacy, and sense of independence may also be strong factors.
Having “The Money Talk” is a gift to parents and children.
However, think of the peace of mind that could come from understanding your parents’ financial situation. One of our Social Workers, Pat Tomczyk, has had many a discussion with our residents’ family members where they’ve mentioned how lucky they are that their mom or dad were receptive to having “The Money Talk” with them well before they needed help with finances or assistance with applying to a senior community. If finances and important documents are not organized, it can be a puzzle nearly impossible to put together at the time when it’s needed most. Having this discussion is a gift to both parents and children.
When you’re ready, here are some strategies for guiding the conversation.
Have your own finances in order & use yourself as the icebreaker.
To lead into the conversation, let your parents know that you’re proactive about your finances too. You wouldn’t ask them to do something that you don’t. Share that you have a good grasp on your finances and have your important documents in place, as well. Explain what steps you’ve taken and why it’s helped you feel stable.